Before you take care of a child, take care of a Bonsai
If you don’t know what a Bonsai is, it’s a tree growing in a pot.
Now I’ll explain what I think the way a think. There is some people who say that you have to take care of an animal before a child, but an animal is equal to a child, so it’s basically the same.
My point is, take care of a Bonsai first. They need nutrients, “hair cut”, sun light, water, someone who talk to them for growing well.